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6.2 Ego Support
I had a friend who is always more well-liked and smarter than me, I used that motivation to support my own ego and to maintain my impression by making myself more presentable. I also read and learn more things to make myself more intelligent. That friend had also always supported me when I need the support, especially when I feel down. She has been my friend since elementary school when I met her in 3rd grade. -
2.1 Early Maturer
I was already wearing a training bra in fourth grade and I was already the tallest girl in my class including the most of the boys. I had hairs on my armpit, legs, arms and "down there". I was only maybe 10 years old at the time and that was about the year before I got my period. For early maturer, the text is pretty much consistent with my experiences since I struggled for earlier independence and more likely to have older friends but I don't smoke, drink, or broke my virginity early. -
8.1 Rite of Passage
I had my first communion and I remember wearing a white dress with little white flower wreath around my head. I had my cross necklace and earrings. I remembered walking down the aisle with others in the church and had a party with family afterward at my grandmother's house. My grandmother gifted me with rosary beads. It was catholic and christian religious rite of passage for first sacrament of the Eucharist. It is the tradition in the religious for many years for age 7 or second graders. -
4.2 Non-gendered typed Behavior
When I was just starting puberty in elementary school, I was not exactly behaving in my typical female behaviors. I sometimes would act like what boys typical do such as playing rough sports during recess and involved more in report talk rather than rapport talk. I was very young and in 5th grade and I was training to do more of prosocial behavior by my mom on mannerism, rapport talk, etc. -
1.1 Entering Adoloscene
I felt the beginning of my adolescence chapter started when I got my first period at 11. I even remembered the date because it was the worst day possible- I had to go to a cousin's wedding and it was very uncomfortable. I felt the definition of adolescence in text fits my definition because it is a sign that I was growing and changing into more matured human being. I was able to have my own opinions and thoughts without having them to be cultured with my family or friend's opinions or thoughts. -
4.1 Gender-typed Behavior
I engaged more in rapport talk rather than report talk. I never liked being in the center of attention how boys usually do. I have always been like that since middle school. I also like to socialized in small groups and I have always shown prosocial behavior and show more empathy with friends. -
6.2 Parent Adolescent Conflict
I remember I was in 6th grade and I was forced to go to CCD (religious education program) and I felt strongly that I do not believe in God at the time and fought with my mom about going there. This was a huge generation gap because a lot of people do not go to religious classes as much as they used to during my parents' generation. The expectations were so different and it created a conflict. -
6.3 Intimacy/Affection
I had this friend since middle school and we have always shared the most intimate details and went through so many things together throughout middle school and high school. The friendship had taught me so much about intimacy and how it is not always about sex with other people, but sharing the most secretive details that you don't normally share with other bring the relationship closer than ever and gain trust as well. -
3.2 Self-Consciousness
I remember I would ask my friends all the time on how they think of me and what my personality is like. That was before I entered high school. I also go to them for their support and ask them on advice on how to make myself a better person. Of course, I would listen from my friends rather than my parents or any family relatives. I remember I finally develop my own self-understanding especially when I experiences new things that acknowledge a fact about me that I do not know. -
3.1 Personal Fable
This is a long story but to keep it short; I attempted to commit suicide because I felt I was alone and that no one knew what it was like and my experiences were very different from others. I didn't think it was worth to go on and to suffer so I wanted to put myself out of misery. In the end, I realize I was not alone and that I was overgeneralizing my experiences and how I was pessimistic instead of optimistic. The aftermath of this consequence lead me to wanting to study in Psychology field. -
3.3 Self-Protection
As I mentioned in other post, I was depressed in middle school and partial in high school. I never like hearing from people, why do you look so sad? I hate hearing anything negative about me and I would think myself as a positive person who has great characteristics. Of course, I was also self-conscious about myself that I do not understand how to take the negative feedback. I now understand to not take negative characteristics negatively but to take them as a way to improve myself. -
2.2 Niche-picking
The time where I feel is most suitable to me is when I am helping out my friends going through a rough patch or when they come to me for help. I was able to use the skills of listening and various ideas to help them solve their problems. It's the kind of environment that is compatibility. I first noticed this when I was a sophmore in high school. -
1.2 Emerging Adulthood
I felt the beginning of my adolescence chapter started when I graduated from high school. My whole new chapter opened to many opportunities that are available to young adults because it came with many responsible such as making decision for my own future's path. I think that is what made me an adult because it is a huge decision that comes with financial and well being to decide what is the best for my future even it may not be the best. -
7.1 Transition to College
I remember I was doing fine in first semester of college in my first year until my dad's death had put my world upside down and really did not ease on my first year the rest of the year. The transition is not only focus on college itself but the lifestyle without my dad and overall it was very difficult transition. I also became more stressed and depressed with making money, making sure my classes are in order for me to graduate on time. -
7.3 Intrinsic Motivation
I have already decided that my major is going to be Psychology before I entered college because I felt I had a purpose to help other individuals and I am good at it. That was my inner motivation to pursue career in psychology field because that is right area for me to study and to help individuals in future. I was already self-determined when I first entered college because I knew what I want to do and it helps me plan my career plan as well. -
7.2 Transition to Work
I hope my transition to work would be successful. I would find myself working with an agency or program that focus on early intervention for deaf and hard of hearing individuals and happily working with master's degree in clinical mental health counseling also counseling for marriage and family therapy. I hope the transition would be fluid and not a difficult one as much as I experienced for college transition from high school.