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During Original Orders
After the original order was entered, the father utilized his custody as a battering ram to punish the mother and dictate visitation schedules. He was consistently cruel in his discussions towards her and in decisions that he made regarding Caleb. -
Quality Time w/ Girlfriend vs. Mom's Visitation
Travis stated that if I did no feel comfortable dropping Caleb off directly with her that night, then I should drop him off immediately. Travis demanded that I shorten my visit with Caleb so that he could spend time with Travis' girlfriend, Brittany Thompson at the Watermine. He went so far as to say that he had already purchased tickets, but then he flushed when asked to produce them. Refer to Gmail - 20160701.pdf -
Accusing Mom of Withholding Items
Father (Travis) attempted to accuse mom (Virginia) of withholding items that belonged to him, even after she had already promised their return. Refer to Gmail - 20160701.pdf and Gmail - 20160703.pdf -
Bullying Mom out of Visitation via Attorney Letters
I had been trying to update visitation according to my new work schedule. I typically had to fight every single week just to see Caleb. This week in particular, Travis attempted to serve me with an attorney's letter to bully me out of seeing Caleb. Instead of mutually coming to an understanding, he opted to attempt to deny me visitation unless I was capable of seeing Caleb within my designated times and days.
Refer to Attorney's letter, Gmail - 20160707.pdf, 2015 Custody and Visitation Order -
Flexing Custody Too Far
Travis kept pointing out that because he had legal and physical custody that he had the authority to dictate when I am granted visitation and during what times. He also invited me to start recording our conversations from that point on. Refer to Gmail - 20160712.pdf and Gmail - Consent to Record.pdf -
Distaste for Parent's House
Father tried to deny visit to Mother's parent's home due to it not meeting his standards of organization.
Refer to Gmail - 20160809.pdf -
Makeup Visitations or Mom's Loss
Arranging makeup visitations to accommodate father's vacation plans was acceptable, but never for Mother's vacations. This is clearly stated by the father in an email. Refer to Gmail - 20160909.pdf -
Restricting Pickup from Daycare to Satisfy Expenses
It was a common occurrence for Travis to restrict Mother's pickup times from daycare for visitation. This particular reasoning, Travis stated that daycare is expensive and he wants Caleb to attend for a full length of time. Later he clarified that he could not receive financial assistance unless Caleb was in daycare full time. Meaning that money was the driving factor in this restriction. Refer to Gmail - 20160926.pdf -
Stop Visiting Caleb at Daycare
Travis attempted to forbid me from visiting Caleb at Daycare. I had taken him to Dairy Queen for a treat and returned him. The childcare provider had started to act degrading towards me around that time. Refer to Gmail 20161004.pdf -
Threatening to Cancel Halloween Visit
The Father stated that unless Mother shares Trick or Treating with the Father in his family's neighborhood, that he will cancel Mom's holiday visit with Caleb. Refer to Gmail - 20161030 -
Denial of Overnight for Christmas
Father aggressively defended Christmas, even though it was supposed to be mother's year. He was to get prime Christmas hours (Christmas Eve overnight and Christmas morning) and she was to have what was left. Refer to Gmail - 20161117 -
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During Current Orders
The Father is evasive when asked to communicate with the Mother. He treats his privilege of final say as the mother having no say. He refuses to involve her in any significant decisions and ignores her requests to discuss issues with him. Father has little regard for the relationship between the mother and her child, as well as the mother's family. The vast majority of holidays are spent with Father, even during mother's turns and against her wishes. -
Ceasing Visitation via Dad's Decision
Father stated that visitation will stop once the father moves to Florida. He depicted his viewpoints of court ordered schedules as "allowed visitation" as opposed to protected visitations. Refer to Gmail - 20170807 -
Cutting Son's Hair
Father attempted to tell Mother that she does not have the right to cut the child's hair. Refer to Google Hangout - Cutting Son's Hair -
Relocating Child w/o Mother's Consent
Father stated that he was going to relocate Caleb to Florida whether Mother agreed to it or not. Refer to Google Hangout - Relocating -
Ultimatum
After arriving in Florida with Caleb on August 17th, Travis sent two documents with an ultimatum to the mother. The terms were to either sign both or neither would be entered. One was the 2017 Proposed Custody Agreement referenced by opposing counsel, and the other was the waiver of arrears. He went on to say that I either sign (over my son) or all I have to do is pay off the arrears to join the Marine Corps. Refer to 2017 Proposed Orders and Gmail - 20170817 - Ultimatum.pdf -
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Affect on Court Ordered Visitation Schedule
The Father's relocation to Florida has prevented Mother's exercise of her court ordered weekly visitation for the last 4 years against her wishes. Refer to 2016 Custody and Visitation Orders -
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Ignored Calls
I would call every night at 8 PM to talk to Caleb, but Travis would only pick up once a week at best. I would go long periods without being allowed the opportunity to contact Caleb. Eventually I switched to letters so that Caleb could at least hear from me. Refer to the 2018 Calls Folder -
Visitation is "Too Expensive"
A common reason to cancel or deny visitation was that it was too expensive. He cited hotel expenses even though he had a substantial support network still in Virginia that would be willing to house him. I never received any such itinerary or research from Travis of $1,200 for a 3 night stay. Refer to Gmail - 20180618.pdf -
"Work Related" Radio Silence
Father goes through periods of radio silence while the mother is trying contact him. The most commonly used excuse is that his work does not allow personal communication during work hours. Refer to Gmail - 20180718.pdf -
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Sparse Replies
Consistent digital communication from the mother's end was interrupted by Marine Corps training restrictions and barracks arrangements. She supplemented this through the use of composition to the child, of which she received only 2 postcards in return. Digital communications resumed once the mother moved into town and had more adequate access to internet and devices. Refer to Boot Camp Letters and Postcard Files -
Normalization of Harmful Behaviors
The father's response to the child expressing upset over the amount of arguing within his household was to tell him that it was normal. He asked the mother to reinforce this to the child, but she did not see this as an adequate response. However, instead of contradicting him, she explained to the child that every person gets to pick want they want as their "normal." Refer to Gmail - 20200710.pdf -
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Continuously Ignored Compromise
Mother's attempts to settle out of court through non-contested processes were continuously ignored by the father from July 01, 2021 to date. Refer to:
Gmail - 20210701 - Legal Drafts.pdf
Gmail - 20210731.pdf
Gmail - 20211030 - Compromise.pdf
Gmail - 20211101.pdf
Gmail - 20211112.pdf
Text documents during that time period -
Not Your "Real Brothers"
In response to Caleb expressing emotion over being away from his morther's family, the Father told the child that his mom's step-sons weren't his brothers, because they are not blood related. This served to minimize the child's relationship with his Mother's family. Refer to the Siblings Recording -
Visitation Utilized in Retaliation
Father attempted to deny visitation in order to punish the mother for petitioning the courts. The father even accused the mother of not offering the opportunity to settle out of court. Refer to Gmail - 20211004 -
Coaching Child to Keep Secrets from Mom
During a phone call with Caleb, he abruptly said that everything he told me that made his dad sound like a monster was a lie. He said that his dad had told him to stop telling me things that make him look bad or might get him into trouble. When I asked Caleb if he was ok, he didn't sound so sure. Refer to Lies and Monsters