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2016 BCE
“6.1- parent adolescent conflict.”
As I got older my cognition led me to having my own values & beliefs of what fun and hard work was. Since my aunt raised me she was a lot older than I am and our generation gap was big between each other so it was hard for her to understand most of the things I did. Her everyday issue was me being on my phone a lot she hated it, her expectation was for me to stay busy everyday (clean up) I could not understand because she did not let me go out so staying home being on my phone was my only option -
2014 BCE
3.2- Abstraction” and “3.3- Social Comparison.
Idealism & self-protection is what I would use to describe my 14 year old self. I'm always being self-consciousness of myself and trying to cover myself as a way of self-protection. I'm the lame kid because I socially-compared myself to the other kids and they seem to be more cooler in the way they dressed and talked. At home I feel more cooler because I'm the youngest and know all of the cool trends that I learn at school I call my older siblings lame -I was unconscious of my behavior. -
2010 BCE
“1.1 Entering Adolescence”
my birthday when I became 10 years old. My body has been through some form go growth spurt such as my breast beginning to develop at this age. My aunt thought this would be the age where I started doing my own chores and I got my very first chore list "washing dishes " at this age. I remember having to be more responsible more of my hearing aids because my aunt said I was old enough to keep up with them now . I believe I was more beginning to enter a stage of independence. -
“2.1 Maturational Timing.”
I chose the date because that is when I started my first period. I believe I was an 'early maturer' because my body began to start precocious puberty at 8 years old. I remember having my very first growth spurt at that age and I was the only one in my friend group to have gonadarche most of my friends didn't begin to develop until middle or high school. I felt peer pressured to start shaving all of my body hair because I was the only one in my peer group to grow puberty hair. -
4.1 Gender intensification
When I was 13 I experienced gender intensification. I dressed like a tomboy; my aunt hated it she always told I need to be more feminine and wear purses & act like a lady. Also remember the socialization pressure of her telling me to wear dresses- other kids my age were doing so and I didn't comfortable enough to do it. Once my brothers and I climbed a tree and I had to get down because that "boys activity". At that age I winder why gender role was so important to them rather than me having fun. -
"2.2- Niche-picking"
I chose this date because that's when I first went back to my hometown and visited my mom and our family; my mom is deaf and she had all deaf/ hard of hearing kids . I was raised by my foster aunt and her family it was an hearing environment even went to a hearing school. When I first went to Chicago I remember feeling at home and I belonged because everybody was signing and everybody was deaf- it was an hereditary-environment. This environment matched who I was I didn't feel like an outcast. -
“3.1- Social Cognition.”
Imaginary Audience-
I remember in middle school I was always feeling onstage and always wanted my body to be covered- I was insecure about how I looked. I never worn shorts or took my jacket off when I was in school even during the summer. In was in middle school my teacher pulled me to the side and asked why I never worn shorts/skirts and I told her I was uncomfortable because I felt like everyone was watching me. I never wanted to stand out and dress up due to adolescent egocentrism. -
“6.2- ego support”
Growing up I remember most of my companionship being ego-supported because since I didn't talk much in school ; one thing I always knew how to do as listen. Most of my close friends was based on listening they know I don't really talk to other people much so they knew I will not disclose any of their secrets they told me I was also able to provide physical support to my friends. I was happy either way because I didn't have to be lonely in school anymore. People only wanted to befriend for a list -
“6.3- intimacy"
In Middle & High school I remember always having the reputation of being mean even my friends called me mean ; but they knew I still loved them. It was hard for me to show affection towards my friend such as hugs and etc. I use to hate that because socially comparing myself I see other people are able to hug and be close to their friends. I also noticed their relationship with boys were very too open and I felt like I wasn't able to let boys walk all over me because I was aware of my self-worth -
"1.2 Emerging Adulthood"
When I turned 17 - I moved out of my aunt house due to instability and moved in with my sister. This is when I started emerge into adulthood and start to gain more independence. I begin to pay my phone bill, help my sister with the bill, I begin to buy my own things.I had to work my part-time job after school everyday. this was the idealism of youth feeling like I needed to live like this but I remember feeling in-between due to conflict that would happen at school I needed permission. -
“7.3- Intrinsic Motivation”
12th grade I finally had a choice on whether I would like to stay and become a product of my environment or do I want to go to college. I was on my last year of school and became very self-determined on making it in a college. I've began to become more motivated and became more self-responsible such as working more hours to save up for college and etc. My teacher talked to us everyday about college which cognitive engaged with what I needed to do, kept me motivated. I started studying for my ACT -
“8.1- rite of passage.”
Growing up we didn't really celebrate a lot of things. But In my family our rite of passage was us graduating high school. Only very few in my family graduated high school because most dropped out to tend to other responsibilities such as helping paying the bills around the house. When we had a graduation ceremony we would receive a money boa(necklace) that my family would make. It then became a tradition in my family starting with my sister and the money represented emerging into adulthood. -
“7.2- Transition to College.”
My Transition to college was a big transition. I moved 13 hours away from home. I became very overwhelmed & stress quickly- I had to start fresh with the relationships with new peers and etc. I felt like I was on my own with everything although I gained a sense of independence quickly. My transition was completely different because college showed me true diversity because while I was in school it was the same group of people. When I came to college I began exploration of the different climate.