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4.1
My first memory as an child would be of my father.
I was on the floor crawling and I saw him and some other man bring in a new TV.
This memory is partially amnesia.
It is a blurry memory of my only memory of my father. -
5.1a
my mother says I was a securely attached child.
I would engage with her when she was around and when she wasn't I was slightly uncomfortable. -
4.3
English was the first language I was exposed to.
While it was the first language, I did not excel at it since I was deaf.
Once my mother found out I was deaf, she sent me to Delaware school for the deaf at an earlier age than most children which was at the age of 3.
With intense speech therapy, I was able to learn two languages at the same time (English and American sign Language). -
3.1
I was born deaf but it was not clear to my hearing parents because I could hear a little bit and they thought that I had a speech defect.
My mother took me to the doctor at the age of to see if I could get speech therapy and that is when the doctor informed her that I was disabled.
After that I was provided hearing aids and attending Delaware School for the Deaf so I could be exposed to sign language.
Thank God that I was exposed to sign language before the age of five. -
6.1a: My family
At the age of 6 I was living alone with my mother since she was a single mother and my father has pass away.
I was used to this life until my mother met my stepfather and he moved in the house with his three children.
This caused a lot of stress since it was all new to me.
Me and my step siblings would fight a lot. -
4.2
Out of all of Gardner's 8 kinds of intelligences, I notice myself connecting with the intrapersonal intelligence.
I am an observer of human behavior; I like to know why people do what they do.
For instance, I remember trying to figure out why my step brother always wanted to bully me and I noticed it was because he was jealous that I was more active with my life than he was. -
1.1
My name is Ashley Pabon.
I was born in Wilmington Delaware and raised in the same house all my life.
My biological process is at the age of 20.
My psychological age is around the age of 20 as well.
My social age is not that great, I need to work on connecting more with people.
I am an emerging adult since I still depend on my mother.
I am in the formal operation stage of Piaget's four stages of cognitive development. -
3.2
My father suffered severe manic depression and he also was bipolar.
When he was going through it, depression was taboo.
He was also a man and it is considered weak when a Puerto Rican man declares his illness, even if it is severe.
He ended up keeping it all to himself and later on my mother found him dead in the garage.
Other people in my family suffers from depression too.
What I learn from all this is not to take depression and any disorder lightly.
I will watch out for myself. -
5.1b adult attachment
I would say I have a mixtue of two kinds of attachments.
I have avoidant and anxious attachment issues.
when I am in a relationship, I tend to feel like I am annoying my partner so I try to leave them alone as much as possible even when that is not what they want. -
5.2 identity
There was a time in which I was confused about my hearing status.
I was pro deaf at my deaf school, and I was almost hearing when I was at home with my hearing family.
I was confused about how my deaf peers were so against hearing people and how at home deaf culture doesn't even exist.
I felt like I was living two lives with these identities.
I also was a tomboy and when I began puberty I was confused with all the gender stereotypes and how a woman is supposed to act and talk. -
5.3a Gender
I never thought of myself differently from a boy when I was young.
My mother never made me do girly things, she just let me play with all of my cousins and it ranged from football to video games. it was when I went to middle school when I became aware of my own gender. the girls would talk about boys and their body and the boys would be more rough and into sports. generally I would join both but slowly overtime I saw myself becoming more girly. -
5.3b Sexuality
My sexuality is heterosexual.
I am attracted to the opposite gender and that is pretty much it.
I never found myself thinking about dating a girl.
I also identify myself as straight and cisgender.
The gender that I feel I am is the gender I am. -
6.1b: My birth order
My birth order is rather complicated.
I have a older half brother I did not grow up with since he is ten years older than me and he lived with my grandmother.
I am the second oldest when it comes to being compared with my step siblings. The birth order does not really apply to me since I do much better than all of my real siblings and all of my step siblings.
I feel a higher pressure to do good in life since I am the only child of my mother and father. -
6.3a:impacted by Death
When my grandmother's uncle died, the whole family was in grief.
We had a huge funeral service to honor him.
I remember feeling weird about it all. It was weird to think that he would never be around again.
I was not in mourning but a lot of my family members were and it affect me.
I felt really bad that I did not feel any remorse. -
6.2: Learning disablitiy
When I am 37 years old, I have a child and I found out that my child has autism spectrum disorder.
I found out that my child is extremely good at drawling.
when he was 4 the school set up an IEP to discuss options of education.
I put him in a more artistic school so he would be able to express his abilities. -
2.1
I am currently 38 years old in the year of 2035 trying to get pregnant with my second child.
I have a potential teratogen.
I have a lot of stress since I am close to 40 and I know that there is a high chance that I will have a baby with down syndrome.
This stress causes maternal stress which makes it harder to get pregnant.
Me and my partner have decided that it was not safe to go ahead and fertilize so we decided to adopt a child.
We adopted a child who was deaf and 2 years old. -
6.3b
I would like to pick a place to be buried by my future husband.
I would like my family and everyone to honor me by discussion old good memories with one another so it lighten up the mood.
I want it to be a time for them to remember good times.
I am a Christian so I would like if they would honor my death by praying for my life in heaven.
