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Birth
I was born in the winter where my parents named me after my great grandmother on my dad's side. I was born in Chicago. -
Birth of my First Brother
I had been asking for a brother or at least that is what my parents at least said. With a new sibling my life changed of course. I am sure my life would look a lot different if I didn't have any. -
First day of Preschool
First day of school I was very introverted until a while when I had grown more confidence and ended up making many friends that I grew up with in elementary. I remember one of the teachers at my preschool would constantly call home to my mom for pointless things. My mom had gotten irritated with her. -
Going to the park
My family and I used to go the park together, mainly my mom and siblings. My mom would often take us to the park because we really couldn't afford to go out often. She used to chase us around in the park even though the other moms would judge her for actually wanting to play with her kids. The kids in the park would get bored playing by themselves where they would ask to play to. -
Rainy Days
My dad typically was the one that picked me up from school since we only had one car, one day they had gotten into an argument. He had just went to work without picking me up. My mom had to quickly walk 40 min to get to our school to pick me up. The sky looked grey and she wasn't wearing walking shoes she had just ran out the door to make it in time to get us. I had to give her a sock so her skin would tear from the shoes. It started raining and my mom had to buy umbrella's with her savings. -
First Dog
We get our first dog that we had ask for years, this did help me with responsibility because dogs where more responsibility then cats. We would take him in walks and take him i=out to the back for him to do his own thing, I also spent some time in training him. -
Moving to a Catholic School
In 6th grade I mainly just wanted a change of pace so I was okay with moving to a different school. My grandparents wanted me to have stronger faith, even though I didn't really understand the big deal. I chose to give it a try to see if I could be religious mainly to make my grandparents happy and my dad. My mom wasn't that strong on religion but she supported me. -
First Relationship
I end up having my first relationship and even though I was young I did have a lot of new feelings. It also showed me how much time and dedication you need to put into a relationship. How much work it actually is. -
Schools starts closing
Schools started to close down the schools and kids though it was going to be vacation but that was basically the last time I interacted with them. I didn't really have much of a social life after that especially because a lot was going on at home. Most of my friends moved away and I basically didn't show up for any of the zoom meetings for the rest of that school year. Since I am the eldest and both my parents started working I was basically responsible for my brothers. -
Moving into a new home
We moved while Covid was still a big thing and a lot of transitions where happening making it hard on all my family. We where moving from basically are small childhood home and this was our first big move. My mom had also had started working and she was mainly a home mom until then because she thought having someone home was important. This big change did put a lot of stress between my parents relationship, and I kind of felt like I was just picking up the pieces that where falling. -
First relationship with a girl
Over covid I was obviously given a lot of time to reflect on myself, and I did. I did end up meeting a girl and started going out with her although she was 2 years older. I was a freshman and we had just got back from virtual. I don't really think this was a healthy relationship because she did have a lot of insecurity issues and no matter what I said it didn't really change how she felt. This relationship did take an emotional toll on me and it helped me have self respect and boundaries. -
Responibility
We had basically moved into our home fully both my parents where working together, making good money so they left me to take care of my siblings and grandmother with dementia. I was getting paid but it was a lot of responsibility making sure my brothers where going to classes, feeding them, keeping the house clean, feeding my grandma, making sure she was up and dressed, also while doing my own schoolwork etc. I would often be moody when they came back from work because I was overstimulated. -
First Job
I had been looking for a job ever since I turned 16 in January but I hadn't really set time aside for it since I was still in school. It was difficult but once I started working, I got more comfortable with talking since I was always talking to new people. It also helped me gain independence and consideration for people who are providing a service. Also working with different people professionally even if I don't particularly favor them.