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Entering Adolescence
The reason why I chose December 15, 2005 is because that the day I transfered to a new middle school. I never experienced friendships or gossip or drama, interacting with other kids that weren't adults until I went to Bruce Street School for the deaf. That's why I consider the day I transfered school as a part of entering adolescence. During that time is when I discovered new things related to sex, friends, attractions to both sexes etc.. I learned a lot by being with being with other kids. -
6.3 Intimacy
My best friend and I developed a close friendship over the years that we became friends. When one of us have a problem, we feel comfortable enough to disclose whatever issue that is bothering us even if it's small or gross. This bond was created when there was so much drama with the girls in our shcool that we turned to each other for support and to talk about anything and everything with even the drama and what we talked about stayed between us. -
6.2 Ego Support
Ego support provides support, encouragement that helps their friends keep this idea that they are okay as an individual. When my best friend and/ I were going through an issue, we had each other's back and whenever one of us felt some kind of way, we assured each other that we are great people, we have this and that to offer to the world. Basically feeding each other's ego but at the same giving good emotional support. -
4.1 Gender-Type behavior
During my adolscence period, girls were more verbally aggressive than the boys in my school. The girls were more relational aggressive, "which involves harming someone by manipulating a relationship." (Santrock, 2016). This includes spreading rumors about a person which they did a lot because they simply didn't like someone or was jealous of a certain friendship and try to break them apart. Guys used physical aggression when they didn't like someone or when someone did something they didn't like -
Typical Maturer
My experience with puberty would have been different if I knew what was going on with my body. I grew breasts when I was 12-13 and have my first period in the 6th grade. Before I had cups, I was getting teased for not having noticeable breasts as my female peers and it was a stab to my self-esteem because I was the third last person to grow in my group. The book said some tend to have sex, drink and smoke etc.. I never did that during my growth. I was too busy trying to figure myself out. -
Niche Picking
One of my "niches" growing up was seeking a group or person with similar genotypes to mine. For an example, when I go to social settings, I often try to spot another black person in the room and socialize with them rather than with causasian people because of cultural and racial differences. That's why I still do it to this day. Choosing my environment helps me feel a little safer and better because I despite being the only black person in the room. -
3.1 Imaginary Audience
I remember exhibited adolescent egocentrism my first day of high school as a freshman and I had wore my hair natural curly and I had thought everyone staring at my hair. I wasn't used wearing my hair out during that time because at that time straight hair was in, curly wasn't. It wasn't like I wanted to be noticed but I did bring attention to myself by trying to hide myself and my hair when I should have done the opposite and be confident. -
7.1 Transitioning to High School
In the textbook, it states that high school is supposed to be about getting proper eduaction instead its about social statues and if you don't fit in, you become stigmaized. I attended a high school that and AI program that is also benefitcal to deaf/HH students and most of the deaf/HH students were treated differently than our hearing peers. We stood out more than fitting in because we simply couldn't hear. So it the transitioning from middle school was a little difficult. -
7.3 Intrinsic Motivation
Intrinsic Motivation applies to challenging yourself and making the effort to do something that caused your self-detemination. There was a time duriing my high school days I felt like I had to measure up to my best friend because people were always comparing us academically and that made me feel like I was the "dumb friend" and I hated that feeling so I took upon myself to try and challegne my grades in a postitive way and I got a 3.4 my senior year and that was proud moment for me. -
8.1 Rite of Passage
Rite of Passage refers to, "ceremonies or rtiuals that marks an individual's transition from one status to another, such as the entry into adulthood." Some cutlures have their own ways of entering adulthood like in jewish culture, they host bar mitzah for 13 years boys as they become "adult" but in my culture as an african-american, I don't we have any rituals or ceremonies that emerges us into adulthood. Typically when we become 18 which is the legal age to be an adult, we're on our own. -
Emerging Adulthood
This is the date I got my first birth control shot before heading off to become a freshman at Gallaudet in two days. I got on birth control to protect myself and a way to prove my mom I am capable of making "adult" decisions since I wasn't going to need her help with anything anymore (well, sometimes.) since I was going to be alone on my own at college. Getting the birth control was a way of showing I am in control of my life because I have a certain lifestyle I want to live. -
7.2 Transitioning to College
Honestly, I felt like it was high school all over again but this time I was completely on my own. I literally knew no one at Gallaudet annd I didn't fit in because of that. I didn't go to a deaf institute and making friends was kinda of difficult because everyone knew each other from high school or social media. Also, in college I am on my own so I can't really reply on my parents all the time and academic is different as well. You must stay on top of your work all the time -
4.2 Non Gender-Typed Behavior
These examples are not stated in the book but society seems to be breaking the norm for how masculine boys/guys/men should be by switching up their clothing styles and painting their fingernails. They are not andrgynous and they don't label themselves as feminine but demonstrate behaviors that are similar to andrgynous. I had come across this concept on a personal blog and was seeing these guys in dresses and black nail polish but they do not label themselves because the concept is nonexisent -
6.1 Parent-Adolescent conflict
The book mentioned that girls & mothers clash more than other family relationships and it made me remember a time where I was a hanging out with a group of cheerleaders and the game wasn't over but my dad came to pick me up early and I didn't want to go home so it led to a huge fight between my parents(mostly my mom)& I because I wanted independence and hang out with the girls a little bit more. I always thought I could have a a little more freedom as I age but my mom had different expecations