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Birth
Khadesia Nedd was born in Houston, Texas to Carla and Edwin Nedd. She was the oldest of 3 - a brother and a sister. She was also African-American. -
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Trust vs Mistrust, Autonomy vs Shame, Initiative vs Guilt, and Industry vs Inferiority: 0-10
There's a lot that happens in a decade. Luckily, I had a lot of encouragement from my parents to be who I wanted to be. "You can be whatever you want." "Don't care what others think." Were mantras in my life. -
Autonomy vs Shame
When I was potty trained, I was persistently encouraged and trained to do better. I became excited to gain a new skill. I experienced the thrill of independence and autonomy. -
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Industry vs Inferiority/Identity vs Role Confusion/Intimacy vs Isolation: 10-20
From childhood to adolescence to the cusp of adulthood, growing up is hard to do. I decided not to like school and to adopt a nihilistic view of the universe. I felt it important to keep questioning everything and everyone and learned who I was. -
Industry vs Inferiority
While I excelled in testing, school was difficult to keep up with. My peers didn't make things any easier. Teachers would humiliate me for missing homework or failing to read assigned chapter books. Towards the end of my elementary years, I no longer liked school. Perhaps my experiences in early grade school resulted in my lethargy and apathy in later secondary school. -
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Intimacy vs Isolation: 20-30
I ended up wanting to settle down pretty early and I got married and had 2 children before I turned 30. I went back to college and got a degree in Nursing and got my Masters' relatively quickly. I also find a long-term relationship -
Intimacy vs Isolation
I start to enter more long term relationships. I find someone I like to spend time with. After realizing nothing is perfect, we work harder because we laugh at each others' jokes. -
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Intimacy vs Isolation: 30-40
At this point, I was extremely tired of the uncertainty of my life. I wanted some peace and quiet and a luxurious bed to sleep in, My high school friends were getting houses and it was time I did, too. I get married and start a family. I formed friendships. -
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Generality vs Stagnation: 40-50
Career was important to me and so was my family. The best thing I could do to help both cases was to make good financial decisions. My student loans were coming back to bite me, but my career allowed me to handle it without much trouble. -
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Generativity vs Stagnation: 50-60
My family starts to move out of my house. I shift my ficus to learning the skills I wanted when I didn't have time. I learn French and go to Paris. I join some humanitarian efforts as well. -
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Integrity vs Despair: 60-70
I wanted to travel more and experience more independent living. I began to regret not speaking to my grandparents as much as I should have. -
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Integrity vs Despair: 70-80
I took it slowly and finally retired. I wanted to spend time with my great grand children. I wish I could have spent more time taking care of my body when I were young so it wouldn't be so hard to take them on vacation in my older years. -
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Integrity vs Despair: 80-90
Resting is underrated, I was tired and I wanted to lie down. I kept eating healthy food and I walked around my neighborhood. I realize despite my mistakes, I was still a good person who cared for and helped a lot of people. -
Death
"Four be the things I am wiser to know:
Idleness, sorrow, a friend, and a foe.
Four be the things I'd been better without:
Love, curiosity, freckles, and doubt.
Three be the things I shall never attain:
Envy, content, and sufficient champagne.
Three be the things I shall have till I die:
Laughter and hope and a sock in the eye. Letter to my Family
