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2.1 Early Maturer
I started really young when I hit puberty, I was only like about 9 years old and It was very young for a girl to start cycling. I must say that growig up early, was lonely and not something I wanted to experience just yet. Feeling I missed my childhood and having to emerge the adulthood knowledge so young when was not even a teenager just yet. I believe I am or just had a growth spurt, I was 5'6" when I was in the 5th grade, which was considered really tall. Now I am about 5'8" & growing still. -
2.2- Niche-picking.
I would pick Evoactive gentype-environment correlations, which matches me then and now because my family is genetically natural athlethes. My mom was a track star, my dad was a pro in basketball/tennis, my sister was a skilled in softball and my brother was an expert in soccer. I was a born natural athlete who learned and picked up easily. It did not effect me becuase I continued to play sports and become better after learning. -
3.1- Personal Fable
I remember growing up, my mom would always tell that my deafness/disability should never be an excuse to get around in life. Just because my disability may require academic changes during middle and high school does not apply to the rest of my life. I believed that if I used my disability to find easier routes, I will always learn the hard way. According to personal fable, I thought I'd be on top of the world and that my life be much easier, however I was wrong. I am just like everyone else. -
First Became Adolescent
This date is approproiate because I started to become open minded, curious and rebellious of wanting to make my own decisions. I became attracted to the opposite sex and wanted to explore along with my emotions and evinronmental reactions. I became adolescent because not only my body changed, I unfollowed parents ways all the time. I wanted to make my own mistakes and learn from them as well and experience life. Emerging Adulthood relations to my experience. (Santrock, 2014) -
6.1- parent adolescent conflict
I remembered at the time when my mother and I gotten into an argument because I wanted to join a dance team. Since I was very persistant in asking, my mother got upset. Knowing I would not take no as an asnwer. Overtime I learned when we had our everyday issues which began to decrease and started to meet up to my mom's expectations. Afterall, it became better after I learned that my mother was stating what is best for me because I am her daughter. -
7.3- Intrinsic Motivation
Ever since I been born, my mom always told me I had self-drive and self-responsibility whenever it came to motivation. I was the one who was always motivating people. Motivation was born within me, something my mom or anybody did not have to teach me. I always dream of becoming a doctor but not knowng what yet. Now I do, a PhD in forensic psychology someday and how I never let anyone stray against my passion nor direction in life. Motivation is what got me in college and in life. -
4.1- Gender-typed behavior
I remember there was a time when I was going through a break up and my female friends were very supportive and did rapport talk during lunch. At the time is when they could understand because they knew what it is like to get your heart broken (teen love). So it was a gender-typed behavior for them to respond the way they did. As a emotional regulation to the situation, and how they made me feel better about myself knowing my ex boyfriend messed up. -
4.2- Non-Gender typed behavior
I remember growing up with my former childhood friends, how each of us had different personalities and ways about ourselves. One girl in particular named Zainab, she was a complete tom boy, she was not feminine or girly at all. However, she had a very attractive physically and would have thought opposite. She had relational aggression when it came to her mannerism and personality. Very rarely would rapport talk but mostly physically aggression when she expresses her emotions. -
Emerging Adulthood
I will say first time I felt I was emerging the adulthood is when I first got on the plan to college, it is when it hit me hard. I was overhwelmed, nervous and scared. I had to learn everything on my own from everyhting I learned in high school. It was like having my own responsibility that my mom used to carry for me, now its me turn. It made me grow up even more fast when I went away. It matched because I was emerging into the adult world and knowing my mom cannot be there all the time. -
7.2- Transition to College
I remeber being in the car, driving with my mom to DC. It was a life changing decision I made long ago, remembering how scared and nervous I was. By being all alone and stressed out knowing if I would make any friends? I came to realize it was a whole another world I was beginning to experience and not only accept but adapt to a new enviroment compared to where I am from. When I arrived, there were a lot of diverse people I got to see myself, and how my relationships began the moment I arrived. -
3.2- Abstraction” and “3.3- Social Comparison.
I remember I used to grow up and did social comparison with other females. It was common for us wome to compare when it came to beauty. I was overall experiencing that first year of college actually. I more self conscious and low self esteem based on what people preferred oppsed to accepting. Overtime I became careless and love me for me. I know I would tell myslef "I am beautiful," which was my abstraction and know everyone is different in terms of natural beauty. I compared between real/ideal -
6.3- intimacy
Having that intimacy and connection with someone who you can self-disclosure with, is the best feeling knowng that they respect you and the relationship you both have. The trust and effort being put in the friendship is what matters. I remember I had a quite close intimate friendship with one guy I knew and still talk to him. He never to judge or looked me any different. The best part about him is that he had more respect for me as a person opposed to who I tried to impress. That guy name is TJ. -
8.1- rite of passage
I remember I had to start internship during the summer, felt like when daily work was hitting me for the first time in my life. Taking the bus, metro, having to get up early, complete tasks and assignments for your supervisor, etc. That is when I was officially in the adulthood, experiencing 9 to 5 job and understanding the coming-of-age was what I came to realize. Felt this was the rite of passage part of my lifetime. -
6.2- physical support
I have always had the physical support, especially times I was down or had a bad day. few friends who had similair situations I had in the past and it more about the coompanionship and made each other self-worth with our physical but verbal presence. Sometimes it just takes the physical to let you know they are there for you.
