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4.1 Gender Typed Behavior
In the book it says that research indicates that girs show better self-control than boys do. This takes me back to my entire elementary/middle/high school experience. The girls were more likely to sit still in class and not make a mess, the boys would always cause a mess and it felt like they did whatever came up in their head. -
2.1 Early Maturer
Page 61 of the book mentioned, "Early-maturing girls' higher level of internalizing problems" which rang true for me. I remember my sister's friend looking disgustingly at my legs when I was in the 4th grade because I had hair. I remember my neighbor saying to me, "Wow your boobs are big, how old are you?!" I didn't tell anyone about the changes I was going through physically and mentally and it definitely made puberty harder. -
Entering Adolescence
After celebrating Thanksgiving at a relative's house, on the way back home I sat in the back seat with a tummy ache but upon arrival I went to the bathroom and realized I had gotten my period, my mother told me, "you're a woman now!" I was going through puberty which is why it is accurate. -
7.2 Transition to High School
When I entered high school after 3 years in middle school, my class was the best at sports and everything else and we were definitely "the best of the best" then we entered high school... where we became nothing! I definitely experienced the top-dog phenomenom because I totally thought that going into high school was going to be a breeze but I was sadly, sadly mistaken. -
6.1 Parent Adolescent Conflict
Growing up my parents and I got along great but when I was in the 8th grade I became really egocentric and I truly believed that when everyone looked at me they saw a fat person so I started eating less and less and when my mom asked me if I was indeed doing that, I blew up at her and didn't speak to her for a pretty long time. My high expectations of myself caused a strain in my mom and I's relationship. -
6.3 Ego Support
In high school I started struggling with anorexia and I think my friend Corinna knew. I've never asked her about it but I started losing weight and eating much less. Corinna never asked me, "Are you doing this or that?" or anything like that, instead she complimented me at the most random times, "You look beautiful today!" "Damn girl, you're on fire!" etc.etc.etc. It really helped with my self esteem. Didn't make it go away but she made me feel great. -
2.2 Niche-Picking
Growing up I was naturally athletic and was led to believe that since I was good at sports, I had to play on teams; even if I didn't want to. I was pretty introverted but my sophomore year it hit me hard and I quit all the sports I played and spent all my time by myself on my computer, on my TV playing video games, etc. People asked my parents if I was on drugs. When really all I wanted to do was just be by myself, I picked an environment that was quiet. -
4.2 Non Gender Typed Behavior
I remember when I was a sophomore in high school one of my guy friends called my other guy friend a "fag" and I was so mad at him that I told him that he was wrong and then I shut him out but then he told me he wanted to talk to me and he had a rapport talk with me; he was the one who brought the idea up and led pretty much the whole discussion. -
6.2 Companionship
My best friend Corinna who I have been friends with since middle school is an amazing person and an even better friend. In high school we always hung out, she always made sure she sat with me at the cafeteria if no one else sat with me, basically she was a great friend!! Still is. -
Emerging Adulthood
Got into my first serious non-heterosexual relationship. I think this is appropriate not because of my sexual awakening, but because of several things. My identity as a lesbian was strengthened because I felt confident enough to tell people about my relationship and for the first time in my life I had to worry about someone else other than myself almost all the time. -
7.1 Transition to College
The book explains that the transition from high school to college is less hard and has more positvity than the transition from middle school to high school. When I graduated high school I thought to myself, "hey.. I'm an adult now, I CAN DO WHATEVER I WANT!" I did a lot of exploring, etc. which was fun. In high school I never got invited to parties but in college I can just start my own party whenever, this made me feel really independent. I met so many different people, way more diverse than HS -
7.3 Intrinsic Motivatio
When I was a senior in high school I started to get really into feminism, I read books about it, etc. and I became close friends with the school secretary who was at the time 22 or 23 years old, she was a feminist too. I learned a lot from her and then I found out that you could go to school and study in women's studies and that motivated me greatly; I started taking school a lot more seriously so that I could get a good GPA, I started reading more about it so that I would have an advantage. -
8.1 Rite of Passage
Like I mentioned before I had my first girlfriend in high school and we were in a long distance relationship and as sad as it is, the first time we kised, etc. I felt like an adult. In the book it says, "Another rite of passage for increasing numbers of American adolescents is sexual intercourse." I grew up in the US, my sister had a Bat Mitzvah but I decided that I didn't want the responsibility of going to classes for a year, so I felt like an adult when I kissed her for the first time. -
Identity Status
I picked political/gender/interests (all combined in one thing). Moratorium- when I was in high school I had "heard" of sexism but I didn't really know much about it but when I was a senior in high school, our high school secretary who was a 23 year old recent college graduate and she told me about feminism and gave me books and I immediately reached identity achievement. -
3.1 Personal Fable
On page 122 it says "Adolescent egocentrism is the heightened self-consciousness of adolescents, which is relfected in their belief that others are interested in them as they are in themselves." When I look back to my junior year of high school. I was 15/16 and I decided to transfer to a mainstream school just for a semester to see how I liked it and it kind of shocked me that things at my old school just went on like always. I thought everyone would pause everything until I came back.
