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Barry Neal LaFevre
Febuary 1st, 1961, My dad (Barry LaFevre) was born. He loved to study World War II and play baseball. He also took up hunting and playing cards with his friends. -
Graduated High school
My dad graduated from Delaware Valley High School in 1978. -
First date
My mom worked with my dads mom and was later introduced to my dad through my grandma. They went on their first date on June 15 -
Four daughters
By September 6th, 2008, My dad was a proud father of four girls. He became our coach for softball and was very active in our sports/family life. -
Diganosed with Cancer
June of 2010, my dad was diagnosed with Esophigal and Lung cancer. He starts kemo therapy a few weaks later. When he and my mom told my sisters and I, our world came to a hault. We knew things would soon change and we would eventually loss our dad. -
Growing weak
October of 2011, my dad can no longer drive,work, or walk by himself. The kemo has made him incredably weak. Myself and my sisters prepared for the worst. Though, no one can ever really prepare for the death of a loved one. And by this time, i had stepped up to the role of my father. I cooked and cleaned for my family while my mom struggled to make ends meet. My life was changing. Fast. -
Hospice
My dad now goes on Hospice care, -
Passed away
January 11th, 2012, my dad passes away from cancer. He would have turned 51 on Febuary 1st. This was truley the saddest day of my life. I lost a father, a coach, and a friend. What was even harder was watching my mom and aunts mourn for the loss of their brother and spouse. -
Art Bereavment
My mom put myself and my sisters in an art therapy. We joined several other highschool teens who also lost a loved one. We discussed our favorite memories of our loved one and made art to help us understand our emotions. By now my life officially changed. I played the roll of my father and we, as a family, mourned for his loss. -
Painted Horses
Myself and my sisters attented another art therapy event. This event allowed us to pain on horses and reflect on our loved ones. By now our feelings of grief have started to pass but no one ever really gets over a death. We think about and miss him everyday and realize how important he was to our lives. -
Still missing him
It has been about eight months since my father passed, Everyday is a struggle because every little thing reminds us of him. We listen to his music and reflect on the good times. But most of us, including myself, still believe he's here. Its hard to let go, so for our sanities sake, we keep him and his memories alive, -
Personal bereavment plan
What is a personal bereavment plan to improve/maintain wellness?
- A personal plan could be to talk about how you feelings with your family or a close friend. Or you could join a bereavment group. This will help you realease your feelings and learn new stratogies on cooping with death. Personally, I find relief and comfort in knowing some one else my age is going through and feeling the same things I am.
