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7.2 - Childhood Attachment Style
I was a happy child whose world were in the books. Due to my deafness, they were probably my only stimulation. Before I became adopted, I was taken from my biological family at 3 years old. After adoption, I believe I was either fearful and/or preoccudied, due to being placed with several families 'til finally adopted, along with a year younger sister with learning disability, no relations. During any playtimes, I would ask quiet ones to join me & still do nowadays. -
“1.1 The Beginning
This is when I enter early adulthood, 18 years old as my chronological age with normative age-graded influence. I just graduated from high school and enrolled into community college. Also, I got a place of my own for first time, with no roommate as I emerge into early adulthood. -
6.1 - Young Adult Role Transition
I had to make the most difficult decision at 19 years old, which was to have abortion without parents & freinds knowing, except a friend who is currently my husband. He and I lived together as cohabitation for 5 years before we got married with agreement of egalitarian roles. -
11.1 - Major Life Event
The major life event that striked me second time around was my second child was taken away from me & fought for him for 2 yrs, - appealed several times, up to US Surpreme court - now on their 5-7 yrs waiting list. During 2 yrs fighting, it was extremely hard on me that I used self-distraction by relasping to crack for a short time. That's also when I decided to become an advocate in criminal justice system, as in meaning-focused with religious coping, via my strong faith in God & Jesus Chirst. -
7.1 - Adult Attachment Style
I believe my husband & I have volatile marriage with caregiving orientation. My attachment has developed & evolved over the years from fearful/preoccupied to preoccupied/secure, by developing healthy, trusting relationship with my husand. Other than my mother-in-law, whereas relationships with others, I become more of preoccupied & defensive, due to betrayal, not once but twice by close ones & "so-called" friendships. I do admit it's hard to trust others with our new baby, via avoidant. -
4.1 My Current Healthy Lifestyle
Clean from street drugs for 4 years now, I am feeling excellent. Thank God that I don't drink or smoke. However, some habits are hard to break, via eating and sleeping - which I am currently working on to improve my health. I just gave birth, now 5 months old and I am still in college trying to juggle my time for everything, but kinda ingoring myself, by neglecting meals and not much sleep.. Hopefully things will be back to normal as family once again, upon graduation. -
6.2 - Older Adult Role Transition
Just had a baby two years ago and amazingly enough, I am pregnant again at 40 years old. I do feel fantastic, full of energy. It's like that famous saying that goes something like this, "30's is the new 20's and 40's are the new 30's". Along with the economic exchange theory, that's excatly how I feel as I go through my middle adulthood phase. -
8.1 - My RIASEC Type
With my RIASEC personality types:Social, Conventional & Enterprising, there are two occupations that consistent with my interests. They are Social & Human Services Assistant and Probation Officers & Correctional Treatment Specialist, which both fits my current job as ADA Advocate within Criminal Justice system while being Addictions Counselor Assistant on the side for several years. -
5.1 - Working Memory
Over the years, I felt I do have a strong semantic memory. However, as for episodic memory which has failed me many times, from time to time. That applies to both word-finding and name-retrival failures. I'm also showing decline in my prospective memory. However, due to lack of practicing what I have learned, my procedural memory - retention have been weak lately. Which in all, are affecting my ADL's. These can be improved by using specific trainning on my intellectual and memory abilities. -
3.1 Oxidative Damage
Drinking ionized water for years helped permeates my body and blocks the oxidation of biological molecules, by rendering abundant electrons to active oxygen, enabling biological molecules to replace themselves naturally without damage caused by oxidation that causes diseases, as oxidative damage - which helped prolong my life to live longer. -
5.2 - Attention
As for my attention span over the years, I feel it has gotten better by controlling my impulses from time to time. Whenever I feel them building up, I would go find something fun to do, via selective optimization with compensation. In other hand, my vision isn't that great as in limited useful field of view, which doesn't really interfere with my ADL's.. -
8.2 - Super’s Stages
I have been feeling successfull & keeping maintenance at 57 yrs old, by developing & amending the "3-Strikes" policy to the ADA Law & being promoted to CEO of a treatment center for the deaf in Kansas. Hoping to branch it out to other states as an activist & advocate of the Deaf community. Amazingly enough, all of these fits my social, conventional & enterprising vocatioinal types. Plus my family supported me through my Masters' in Criminal Justice few years back which is an update to my career. -
9.1 - Ego Integrity
As life gets more complicated, it seems I'm gaining perspectives of my life in context of wider social concerns with higher level of moral reasonings. Proudly to say as a Grandmother, my children are already grown up into emerging adulthood and having children, via grandchildren. I feel that I have met the need to be generative, by supporting the next generation in Deaf community, via disability rights under ADA Law. -
“4.2- Potential consequences of my lifestyle
From my past drug using, luckily I didn't develop substance abuse disorder, but I may have some kind of impulse control disorder. I have susoected it for years but keeping myself busy seem to help. However, I can see how much it affect those around me, especially my husband and children. Sometime soon, I plan to destress myself at a Christan retreat. Meanwhile, due to my possible impulse control disorder, I also plan to take up a new hobby or extracurricular activity to avoid sedentary lifestye. -
3.2 Genetic Limits
There is a replicative senescence procedure which have been popular lately, so if any problems with my body... I'll probably give it a try if not a risk to my life. My knees, hips and back have been acting up lately; so I might make an appointment this coming summer to have them looked at and see if can use replicative senescence procedure to heal or replace them, hopefully with no complications and no genetic limits that might prevent the procedure from succeeding. -
10.1 - Fowler
My non-deminational christian faith has been center of my life & worldview, from individualistic to integration. I believe, always have, that all religions/beliefs are under God, Our Heavenly Father. Thy Lord Jesus Christ have healed & saved me more than once and I believe my faith is more of a loving conjunctive faith as in agreement with "There is that of God in every man.". I would say to whoever asks, "Put it in your precious heart and keep it there forever, Amen." -
9.2 - Integrated
Slowly with self-awareness, I have been gaining better understanding of relationships, with higher level of moral reasonings as my family grows with great-grandchildren. Plus with the replicative senescence procedure I had done several times, over the years. My well-being overall have never been better, along with my upmost improved development of abilities, especially individualistic & autonomous. My productivity & creativity have tripled over the years, since can't procreate anymore. -
2.1 The End
Mistella D. Kneil-Haefner, 98, of Blaine, KS passed away April 10, 2011 during her space-traveling to planet, Eyeth. Her friends & family were with her as she renite with the Lord. She was born to Shelly and Juan M. Koehn in Newton, Kansas on August 28, 1973. Mistella went to Allen Elementary School & Kansas School for the Deaf and graduated in 1992 in Olathe, Kansas. Mistella, devoted advocate of Deaf communitty is survived by her husband, Calvin & 4 children; Isabella, Nevin, Niven & Vinella.