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4.2 Non-Gendered Behavior
When my brother and i adopted new pitbull puppy, we were thrilled. After about three weeks, we became attached to the puppy. My mom was skeptical about having a pitfall dog around children. My puppy would not stop growling at everything and that made my mom nervous. One morning, my mom decided to tell us that she is going to give the puppy away. My brother cried for almost four hours. While i sat there being sad. My brother bawled until mom changer her mind. -
1.1 Entering Adolescence
It was when i first got my period. Just a week before my 13th period. My puberty began on that day. I had a responsibility now for my own body. My body was changing. I now wear bra, pads (period), deodorant. So this was the period of time where i was learning to how to take care of myself. (emotionally and physically.) -
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4.1 Gendered Type Behavior
My parents announced to my brother and i that they were separating. We were heartbroken to hear that our parents were not working out. I wanted to talk about it. My brother did not. Throughout two years of separation, my brother barely shared his feelings with me while i blabbed everything to him. He did not want to share or show his emotions toward the process of our my parents' divorce. -
6.2 Companionship
I had a best friend, Alexa. I was going through emotional time in my life. (my parents divorce, house fire, and puberty changes) She was there and willing to listen. She will cheer me up whenever i was feeling down. We would do a lot of things together and we bonded through our sensitivity. -
2.1- Early/Typical maturer
My puberty began in late of my sixth grade year. My first year in Middle School where my hormones were all over the place. Menstruation was starting at the time, began to wearing bra instead of training bra, and had crushes on cute boys. But what set me differently from others were the fact my parents were going through divorce and my mom lost her place due to work-which caused me to step up the plate and help more. My mom went back to full time student. I had to take care of the family somehow. -
3.1 Abstraction
When i was in middle school, i would often describe myself as a strong opinionated person who was very sensitive. Over time i realize that i am not that sensitive as i seemed to make to be. The idealism of the person i wanted to be was a sensitive person. -
6.3 Stimulation
A girl in my class, she was on same sport teams that i was on ever since i was maybe five years old. We played soccer, gymnastics, flag football, softball, volleyball, basketball, and more. We were also in same classes. We had so much common interests and i spend lot of my time with her. -
7.1- Transition to High School
When i started high school, i just moved across the country; california to washington D.C. i knew no one at my new high school in an entire new city. However i fit in well because i played sports at my high school. My brother was the popular kid in the school due to his excellent at football. i also dated the quarterback of the team. As the book mentioned top-dog, we had that in my school, it was a struggle because i was that at my old school but not at my new school. -
3.2 Social Comparison
The period in middle school where a child really evaluates themselves and compares with others. Puberty increases the sense of need of being normal. I often compared my clothing, appearance, and lifestyles with my friends. I wanted to fit in and be same with my friends. I compared every single things my friends did with the things i did. I was very self conscious -
6.1 Parent Adolescent Conflict
When i was in high school, as a freshman, i really wanted to go to this high school party. My mother and i had a disagreement on whether i should go or not. I wanted to go due to peer pressure and i wanted to be with my friends. During that year, i fought a lot with my mom rather than my dad. As stated in book, adolescent reported having more disagreement with their mother than anyone else. -
3.1- Imaginary Audience
I was at this stage in my life where i was starting puberty. As a teenager girl where pimples were supposed to be normal but yet so embarrassing. One day i had a zit and it was middle of my forehead. I was too humilated to go to school. When i did, it felt like everybody was staring at my zit but in the reality, nobody cared. -
1.2 Emerging Adulthood
the day i turned eighteen years old. The same day I had to make a doctor appointment. My parents are not allowed to call for me anymore so I had to make the call myself. Later that day I had to sign release of transcript for college that I was applying to. I had to sign it myself due to being legally responsible for my own. As Arnett mentioned in book - The age of possibilities, when i turned 18, it was like the world was mine. Whatever i wanted to do next and that was entirely up to me. -
8.1- Rite of Passage
My high school graduation/18th birthday was my rite of passage. When i first turned 18, i became responsible for my own appointments, bills, and legal stuffs. My parents strongly enforced my independency as soon as i turned 18. Yet they still had control over my education choices until i graduated from high school. When i did, my choice to go to college, which college i want to attend, finance supporting myself, and etc was fully my choice. When to come home, what to do over the breaks, and etc. -
7.2- Transition to College
i experienced emotions such as depression in college due to failure of some courses, goals, and relationships. I struggled being on my own. I had no commitments other than my job. In college i was very overwhelmed with the independence and non structural lifestyle. As for my peers, in college it is much more diversified and more eye opening, education classmates i have. -
7.3 Intrinsic Motivation
I was taking this course, AP Psychology at my high school. The test is really hard to pass. I was determined to pass the test. I wanted to pass because i knew it would feel good and it would be rewarding. It was my own choice to make. I stayed up and studied all night for the test. I passed the test with high B+ i was very thrilled. -
2.2- Niche-picking.
Epigenetic view is a theory i agree. My father and i, both are very extrovert. We are very well known in our communities. Yet we are different due to environmental influences. We grew up in very different lifestyles and raised differently due to religion and communication access. So as for the setting, we always find ourselves in the place where we can be loud and ourselves. a room full of people. i have so many personality traits that are same to my father.